Gotta love technology and modern communication. I've mentioned before that I have this whole new group of cyber friends who I've met through different adoption yahoo groups and forums. In the last few days I've been emailing back and forth with a new friend who just brought her little girl home 6 weeks. Her little one has been having night terrors. We went through a 5 month spell of those with our little guy last year so I reached out to her. I also told her that baby sister may have been in her daughter's birthday party pics but that I'm a terrible mother and can't tell if any of the little friends was her! Anyway, tonight she mentioned that I should look at a website for a foster program that Macey could be a part of. A foster program that I didn't even know existed, let alone that they have a website with photos and stories of the kids they foster. And guess what? A few clicks later and there she was! A..MA...CEYING! (just made that up on the fly, by the way, fancy me...)I don't know what I'm more excited about.. a new, albeit dated picture, maybe the youngest we've seen of her, or the fact that she was fostered which means she was cared for one on one, talked to, held and loved. I'm so happy for her. I really hope she's still there but I don't know yet. I emailed the foster home. I got all goofy when I saw the photo and just impulsively sent an email asking how she's doing, if she's still there, if they have any pictures they can share. Then after we got the boys to bed I pulled myself back together and sent another note asking about the foster family, what their needs are and if we could send anything directly to them. I have a feeling she's probably been moved from her foster family to the orphanage by now, having been nursed back to health after her rough start. But I'm holding onto a glimmer of hope that maybe she's still being fostered. Fingers crossed! It would be such a relief if that's the case. And such a gift to be able to have a more direct conduit to her.
There's also a slight bit of confusing info on the paragraph that accompanied her photo on the foster care website. It says she was "diagnosed with heart disease and a skull deformity." What the heck? Sort of big deals and probably worth mentioning in her file. Ya think! But nope. I sent an urgent request to our agency and I will follow-up with a phone call. Thank God for summer break. I can get on this first thing in the morning. I'm assuming even if Macey does have some sort of heart disease that it's either minor or has healed by now. Giving the benefit of the doubt to those file writers! Even so I'm going to demand further investigation and documentation. I'm also assuming the skull deformity comment was the precursor to the head CT. In the CT report there's no mention of anything other than some fluid. Everything else is reported to be normal and healthy. No mention of "skull" nor "deformity" .. so certainly no mention of a freaking skull deformity. Things that make you go hmmm. Stuff like this further complicate an already almost impossible process. It's tough enough making decisions with a lack of information and clarification. Then to find out through another family that this foster program exists, rather than from our own agency, who are supposedly "experts," seems ridiculous. They ask for pages and pages of documentation and information from us, yet the outflow is almost nonexistent. So very frustrating. In my heart I know Macey's fine but I do want them to dig into it a little and provide some clarification for us, not only of her health from early on, but also how she really is doing today. A little peace of mind will go a long way at this point. I cannot sit here and wonder for the next few months.
Just when it started to get a little boring!
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